I’m in a, Sapphic Relationship W/ My Money
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Of course you didn’t know this, but money is a lady. Money energetically is a woman. She gives and receives. That’s feminine energy. That’s water-womb energy. She can be soft & sweet, but she can also ruin your life if you aren’t careful with her. If you abuse her, she will not only abuse you back, but she’ll take your joy in the form of low-income, higher bills & things you hate, while also leaving you $0 to spend on things that bring you joy (aka you don’t have enough to buy that Prada bag). It’s a loop, it’s a cycle, but you can get out of it.
I did. And still am doing it.
So. . . I decided to give my money the care & softness I’d give to my lover. Therefore, I have a Sapphic love affair with my money. I have vowed to treat her with love, honour, and respect. I have vowed to not abuse her but use what she gives me and create more of her, so she’s not stressed and I’m not stressed. I told her as she waters me, I will water her. I will use her properly and tend to her as she grows and she’ll do the same for me.
ᴇᴠᴇʟʏɴ + ᴄᴇʟɪᴀ • ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴇᴠᴇɴ ʜᴜꜱʙᴀɴᴅꜱ
So, what does all that beautiful poetry mean? Well it basically means, I plan for what she’ll do prior to receiving her. I’ve planned for her arrival & her comfort, before she arrives in my checking account. I setup systems to make sure so runs into the places I need her to go in order to help her grow NOT DEPLETE HER; I intentionally make her grow. My Mars is in Taurus, in the 2H, so I am slow and intentional overtime, steady growth.
Because, money is not a scary or evil thing. It does not run; it does not hide; it does nothing other than sit & you are the one in control of its movement.
You wanna know how?
You tell it where to go; which bills to pay; the frequency; whats a priority; what is not; etc., but at the end of the day you’re in full control of the money. And no it’s not your money if all you have at the end of the month is less than what was given to YOU.
I’m not yelling at you, I’m moreso just trying to get you to look in the mirror. Not out of judgement but out of POWER.
Power meaning:
YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF THE MONEY SO WHAT DO YOU WANT IT TO DO?
That’s where your power comes from.
Thats where you begin to decide what you want to do with YOUR money. You pay bills because you want to, if you didn’t care what would happen –you wouldn’t pay it. Simple.
Solution: Start putting your money towards things you care about and watch her grow.
Money doesn’t have a an issue growing or being small, it’s us who has the issue. So, in order to fix the issue we have to fix us.
We have to fix our relationship with money. Not “our money,” ALL MONEY. You should go look at $1 bill and say wow that’s a lot of money!
Because when you were a kid it was & you were just happy to receive it –without wondering what was going to happen to it. You used it for what it was and then you looked forward to receiving it again & guess what. . .
you received it again!
In fact, you’ve been receiving it your whole life, you just didn’t know how to treat it. So start having a relationship with money that isn’t based on what it can do for you, rather, based the relationship around the joy you feel from receiving it FIRST, and that will turn it into more joy.
I enjoy paying for my car insurance & car note because of the JOY my car brings me & the joy of having peace of mind should anything happen. I enjoy receiving money so I can keep my car in excellent condition, because the joy I receive isn’t about the price –it’s about simply enjoying the car that I chose for myself to enjoy.
It’s simple really. So if you don’t enjoy paying for something. . .
figure out a way to stop paying for it.
I have faith in you.
Do this with grace & intention, meaning, you don’t just not pay it, you end the relationship with the bill provider. You say thank you, but I don’t need this anymore. And if you still feel like, no I can’t end the relationship because I need it, ask yourself “is it a lack of money issue?” or “do I need this but can’t find alternatives issue?” You’d know best, these are just examples.
–Only release your money to the things that bring you joy. Not things you tolerate or dislike completely, because that’s what’s actually stopping your money flow –your resistance about spending money on things you hate, so why would more money come to you? You’re basically saying:
“I hate what I have to use you for, but please keep coming so I can hate and abuse you more.”
Thats sick man. And she’ll just keep returning to you broken.
[ sidebar: ]
(aka, I don’t put heavy financial loads on my income that would make it harder to pay bills on time, save, have fun, travel, etc. I live below my means, intentionally, and strategically, not out of lack, but from strategy. This way I can still meet all my needs without fail. This way I can slowly and steadily increase the $ dollar amount of my desires overtime without fucking up any of the basics, such as putting all bills on auto-pay because the money will always be there. Without fail).
Without fail means: I create fail accounts in the event of failure, sorta like what a backup generator does for a home. Sometimes the backup generator has a built in backup (lol).
But, you understand the analogy, you can plan for anything if you’re focused on it. Sure life will happen but that shouldn’t break your focus because you already know it’s going to happen, so your job with money is to use it to plan for what you already know will happen.
Example: either you plan to have car insurance or you plan to pay full price for anything that goes wrong with your car. Which one would contribute towards joy in the form of peace of mind? **Don’t think about the cost, think about how it would feel if it was covered. Relief? Peace? Joy? You probably wouldn’t care about the price if you knew the money would cover it. You don’t care about spending $20/mo for streaming, while someone else may not care about spending $1,000/mo for beauty treatments.
The goal, You plan for life to happen, because it will. Money is our partner, our tool to help us with life, so let her help you. Don’t try to control her, help her flow into the places where she can achieve growth & THEN, you’ll get more of her, because you’re both helping her to grow while also being the cause of her growth.
Now –all you need to do is plan for her arrival and she will receive you with with an open heart, an open mouth, and open le–
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Anywho. . . you see what I’m getting at & this is just the beginning.
Leave your thoughts in the chat.
Ianthe, founder of The Onyx Archive
With love,
